Single parenthood

Single parenthood

Does anyone have an instruction manual i can borrow?

I just found out my sons mam has got a new lad and it's proper gutted me

We haven't been together for a while so i didn't expect it to bother me this much.

So why do you need a manual on being a single parent? :spangled:

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sorry about that. I know you're not supposed to be bothered but your feelings don't do what you want them to do they. If you love your son it will work out in the end

Because it's hard as fuck mate.

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cheers mate, yeah he's mint! Its just a constant reminder everytime i have to see him/her.

I wasn't being a dick there btw, I was just wondering what has changed in your situation that makes you need a book?

I know mate, its always been hard, its just knowing some other bloke is going to play step-dad does my nut in...never mind the fact that it hurts that she has moved on!!

Aye, it must be a pretty bad feeling like. Just do what you do, I'm sure you're a good Dad and other bloke isn't gonna replace you in your sons life.

Sorry to hear this Marc..

My advice is to keep ya chin up and keep being a good father.

Even if you get to meet the guy.. still be nice and accept him.. you'll get massive respect for it and it'll make things a lot easier in the long run.

I know, i'll always be his Dad, its just shit knowing some other Lad gets to be around him all the time! The way i should!

I'm just feelin sorry for myself really!!

You're not feeling sorry for yourself, its human nature to feel that way, although its easier for women as you can't beat a mothers love, but when my mam and dad split they were over eachother blahblahblah but my dad was still hurt when my mam met her bloke and we are all grown up.

Aslong as you are there, support your ex in everyway you can, and dont let your son down, there will be no reason for the new bloke to take your place.

Bad crack crack mate. If shes not with you anymore its going to happen sooner or later so the quicker you accept it the better. Just get yourself out and find yourself a eager young lady. Theres loads down the bay!

Just hope that the bloke is sound. I get on really with with my ex's new bloke, and it helps that he has his own son to another woman aswell, which made it all the easier. It's not a nice situation, but in the long run it'll probably help your son because your ex will be happy and will be better off in a financial way. You've just got to think of the postitives in the situation and try and move on yourself. It hurts, but you've just got to be strong for your son. I'd try and meet him asap, and all of you's try and get along, because it's the only way tbh.

Keep your chin up mate

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I am in exactly the same position as you mate... have been for bout 7 months!!

My ex settled down with another almost instantly and it is absolutely gutting!! To make things worse this guy is an absolute dick (I'm not just saying that cos I'm bitter he actually is a proper down and out!!)

He drinks/smokes weed and I am worried about the influence he is having on my son!! I see my son every other weekend and twice during the week!!

All I can say is that dont worry bout them being around ya kid more than you (unless its seriously not healthy) and just focus on time u spend with ya kid...

Interesting thing is my son is absolutely fine when i have him but he plays up like hell when he's with his mam and new guy!! Which I take great satisfaction in!!

So in the long run I know where he's gunna prefer to be....

I couldn't think of anything worse than not getting on with my ex's bloke. Must be really hard. I feel really lucky about the way things have turned out with it all, just hope you's two get it all sorted aswell

sorry to hear that mark, you'll be ok tho, am sure of it

fuck knows.. I'm one and feel like a haven't got a fooking clue half the time :spangled:

Swana it's really hard when you are feeling sorry for yourself not to try to compete in some way with the new guy to prove that you are the best dad.This is really bad for your son though cos he is then forced to choose all the time and whichever way he chooses he will be hurting someone he loves. You really have to try not to put this other guy down for the kids sake, even if you think the guy is a wanker.
Seems to me it's harder for blokes in this situation cos you can't win whatever you do.

Cheers peeps, by the sounds of it her Lad is ok so i'm not too worried there. Just got to be a man and get on with it even if it is easier said than done!!!